So You’ve Hit Burnout. Now What?

 

You’ve been holding it together—until you couldn’t anymore.

The deadlines. The kids. The calendar. The constant demands.
Maybe you’ve ignored the signs. Maybe you thought this is just what “being successful” looks like. Maybe you’ve kept going because you didn’t know how to stop.

But now?
You're running on fumes.
You don’t recognize yourself.
And something deep in you knows: this isn’t sustainable.

Let’s name it.
Let’s stop normalizing it.
And let’s begin—gently—again.

What Burnout Actually Is

Burnout isn’t just “being tired” or “having too much on your plate.”
It’s a state of chronic physical, mental, emotional and spiritual exhaustion caused by prolonged stress without adequate recovery.

It flattens your nervous system and hollows out your joy.

It’s when your body starts saying no for you—because you’ve stopped giving yourself permission.

Signs You’re Burned Out

Burnout doesn’t always scream. Sometimes, it whispers.

Mental Signs

  • Difficulty focusing or making decisions

  • Brain fog or forgetfulness

  • Procrastination, even on things you care about

  • Feeling like you’re just going through the motions

  • Constantly questioning your worth or competence

Emotional Signs

  • Mood swings, irritability, or emotional flatness

  • Apathy or a loss of excitement about life

  • Dread about facing the day—even when nothing’s “wrong”

  • Feeling alone, even when surrounded by people

  • Increased sensitivity to criticism or rejection

Physical Signs

  • Chronic fatigue, no matter how much you rest

  • Headaches, muscle pain, or unexplained tension

  • Digestive issues, gut imbalance, or appetite changes

  • Weakened immunity (getting sick more often)

  • Hormonal imbalances or cycle disruptions

Spiritual Signs

  • Feeling disconnected from your intuition or inner guidance

  • Loss of meaning or purpose in your work or daily life

  • A sense of spiritual dryness, emptiness, or restlessness

  • Cynicism toward things you used to believe in

  • A longing to “escape” or completely start over

  • Feeling like you’ve lost touch with who you really are

Now What?

Burnout doesn’t mean you’ve failed.

It means your current life pace, expectations, or coping strategies are no longer working.

It’s a request—sometimes a demand—for change.

Here’s what to do next.

1. Honour the Pause

You cannot heal in the same conditions that made you sick.
Step one isn’t to do more—it’s to stop.
Start with one full day of unscheduled time, or even one hour with no expectations.

Try this:

  • Cancel one non-essential obligation this week

  • Turn your phone on airplane mode for an evening

  • Take a nap because you’re tired—not because you earned it

  • Let yourself lie down, even if the dishes aren’t done

🧠 Affirmation: “I don’t have to earn rest. I need it to be well.”

2. Identify Your Energy Drains

Burnout is often death by a thousand paper cuts.
Track what’s draining your energy, even subtly.

Try this:

  • Make a “Stress Audit”: for 2–3 days, list what energizes you and what depletes you

  • Highlight the top 3 drains. Can you delegate, delay, or ditch one of them?

  • Watch for hidden leaks: people-pleasing, decision fatigue, always being “on”

🧠 Affirmation: “It’s safe to choose what supports me.”

3. Nourish Your Nervous System

Your nervous system needs soothing, not stimulation.
Your body needs rhythms, not rigidity.

Try this:

  • Morning sunlight exposure (10–20 minutes daily)

  • Deep belly breathing for 3 minutes before sleep

  • Walking in nature—no headphones

  • Epsom salt baths or magnesium before bed

  • Gentle movement: restorative yoga, stretching, or dancing

🧠 Affirmation: “I trust my body to guide my healing.”

4. Reconnect with Yourself (Slowly)

Burnout disconnects you—from joy, from creativity, from yourself.
Reconnection is the remedy.

Try this:

  • Reclaim one hobby or ritual you’ve abandoned

  • Journal: What part of me have I been silencing to keep up?

  • Start your day with one thing that’s just for you—tea, meditation, stillness

  • Block one hour each week as non-negotiable me-time (literally label it in your calendar)

🧠 Affirmation: “I matter.”

5. Ask for Support

Healing from burnout is not a solo act.
Ask yourself: Who could help lighten the load? Who can I tell the truth to?

Try this:

  • Text a trusted friend: “I’m feeling overwhelmed—can I talk something out with you?”

  • Book a therapy or coaching session (even just one can be a game-changer)

  • Hire help for one task: house cleaning, groceries, childcare, admin

  • Say “no” even if it feels uncomfortable (you’re allowed to disappoint people to honour yourself)

🧠 Affirmation: “Support is strength, not weakness.”

6. Create Micro-Moments of Joy + Meaning

You don’t need a big vacation to start feeling better.
You just need to interrupt the pattern—with tiny moments of aliveness.

Try this:

  • Light a candle with intention

  • Make a playlist that makes you feel like you again

  • Sit in a sunbeam for five full minutes and do nothing

  • Read one page of a book that inspires you

  • Write down one thing you’re proud of from the past week

🧠 Affirmation: “Joy is allowed—even now.”

The Slow Burn Approach

Burnout recovery isn’t a checklist—it’s a reclamation.

I help high-functioning, heart-led humans create lives that are not just successful on paper, but peaceful in practice.

Through integrative coaching, soulful retreats, movement, and reflection—I’ll help you pause, reconnect, and rebuild a life that feels as good as it looks.

Because burnout may have been your wake-up call…
But it’s not your story.
Not anymore.

Connect with me.

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